-she works for me
-she's only twenty-two
-she's cambodian(not really a detractor, except for the fact we're from two entirely different worlds)
-we have very, very little in common, almost nothing(see above different worlds thing)
now, why does none of that bug me? the work thing, well i've always ignored that rule, so here i go again, but i weighed the consequences pretty heavily this time, taking everything into account. and then i said, fuck the consequences, this one is worth it. the age thing? we talked about it day one, and we both whole heartedly agreed that age is just a number. the race thing? i don't really care. okay, the last thing should seriously bug me. my whole life, i grew up loving things to death. you hear that? "things". i've pretty much judged people not on who they were, but what they liked or loved. there's a great quote from a movie that better illustrates that, but i'm forgetful of what flick and the actual quote, so i'll just digress here. anyways, i've pretty much defined myself and the people around me by what they love. she has no favorite anything. in fact, she has no real interests at all. it makes discussion kind of difficult. but the more i get to know her, the more i realize that she hasn't grown up defining herself by things that she loves, but defines herself by people she loves. what defines her is her relationships with people. this has blown my mind. the things that matter most to her are the people in her life. this is so comforting to me and it makes it so easy to see past the fact that we have so little in common. what's more comforting is that she decided to include me in her life, among the things she loves. this is why i'm risking it all. hopefully, in time, the people in my life will see this, and come to accept her as i have. she's the reason i smile all day long and want to do better with my life. i'm embracing this one.
so yeah, i have a girlfriend now. a damn fine one.